Hypothetical Comprehension Problems
I'd like to set up a hypothetical situation here, because I am having some comprehension problems. Let's say, hypothetically, that someone you claim is one of your best friends did something that you felt incredibly - wait, let's up the ante and say irredeemably - hurt by. Said friend then contacts you and says that they do not fully understand the situation, never intended hurt at all, and would like to listen with open ears to how you feel and what can possibly be done to rectify the hurt you feel. Keep in mind that you have claimed this person means a hell of a lot to you and that you love them deeply. Would you merely throw away the friendship you claimed was so valuable, despite the fact that this person has always treated you with respect and love, or would you sieze the opportunity to explain your feelings in the situation and try to find a way to talk through the wreckage of this momentary battlefield and see if there is any salvation to be found?
posted by Le Synge Bleu at 3:51 PM
6 Comments:
As long as there is love and respect, everything can be worked out. Sometimes it's hours, sometimes it's months, but almost nothing is worth throwing a friendship away.
synge, you and i are a perfect example of the fact that hurt feelings, misunderstandings and words spoken in the passion of the moment do not- by any means- have to mean the end of a friendship. true love and respect can survive these things. and if, hypothetically, i had a friend that was not willing to let me explain and apologize for my actions, i would question the level of respect in that friendship.
if someone you have loved has put aside their pride and opened a door like this, it seems to me like a great blessing. of course there is risk involved, but anything worthwhile is always risky.
Talk, talk and forgive...........It is the essense of the peaceful way.
Sailor
Is the blog really the best place to continue to work this stuff out when he already expressed anger that you were airing your argument for all your friends to see?
Do you think the tone of the original argument would have changed if you had approached him with your issues directly instead of letting him read about them here?
I've seen you make oblique reference to this issue and wonder if you've considered how this element could be affecting the trajectory of your argument with your friend?
--tuebmahs
Are you coming back? I hope this doesn't make you stop blogging. I like reading about your life.
I have declined to get involved in this dilemma for obvious reasons.
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